Being Single Forever

Being SINGLE Forever !!!

Read this sentences carefully:
Baik atau buruknya suatu hubungan (teman, berpacaran / pranikah, atau pernikahan), tergantung dari siapa saja yang terlibat dari hubungan itu.

OMELET TELUR BUSUK
Temen-temen, kalo dipikirin dan direnungin maka kalimat di atas bener banget tuhh. Relationship kita dengan orang lain, tentu terkait erat dengan pribadi orang itu sesungguhnya. Seorang tokoh motivasi terkenal juga pernah bilang, kita adalah rata-rata dari karakter teman-teman kita, dengan kata lain keberadaan kita ini dipengaruhi oleh orang2 di sekeliling kita.

Contoh nyata dehh:
Omelet, alias telor dadar /orak-arik. Dia akan menjadi makanan yang enak banget (terutama buat yang laper) kalo terbuat dari telur-telur yang segar dan baik. Tapi gw pernah bikin omelet dari 4 telur, dan ternyata waktu gw pecahin telur ke 4 dan tercampur dengan 3 yang lain, telur ke 4 itu udah busuk. Wakzzz..., Apa temen2 ada yang mau omelet dari 3 telur bagus dan 1 telur busuk..??

Tentu ga akan ada yang mau, because the 4th egg, has made the whole things going bad. Yup, si telur busuk tadi udah mempengaruhi/ merusak telur-telur yang baik. Dan kabar buruknya adalah : Omelet itu ga bisa jadi telur lagi.

Ilustrasi di atas, ga jauh beda dengan relationship yang kita alami dengan teman-teman kita, termasuk juga dalam pernikahan.

Relationship hanya bisa seindah dengan siapa kita menjalin hubungan itu . Kalo dalam pernikahan sudah diaduk menjadi satu, dan jika baru ketahuan kalau telur yang satu busuk dan mengalahkan telur yang baik... owww... that's terrible >.<

Now, kita lihat pada ayat dibawah ini, ayat yang mengawali tentang relationship antar manusia.
Kejadian 2:18 TUHAN Allah berfirman: " Tidak baik, kalau manusia itu seorang diri saja. Aku akan menjadikan penolong baginya, yang sepadan dengan dia."
King James Version : And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him .

Jika manusia seorang diri / Alone : Tuhan katakan itu "Tidak Baik".

Seorang diri = alone /sendirian, bukan single. Manusia yang Alone artinya :sendiri saja, eksklusif, terisolasi, menyendiri, tersendiri, tidak ada teman. Ini adalah kondisi yang tidak baik.

Mengapa TIDAK BAIK jika manusia seorang diri saja ??
Here's the reason:

1. Karena KASIH. Sifat dasar dari kasih adalah MEMBERI, to give. God is Love, jadi supaya Tuhan bisa mengasihi maka Tuhan menciptakan manusia agar Tuhan bisa mencurahkan kasihNya.

2. Karena untuk memperoleh keturunan, maka harus berpasangan dengan lawan jenisnya.

3.Karena talenta dan kemampuan kita tidak dapat dikembangkan sendirian saja. Tetapi untuk mengembangkan Karakter, diperlukan orang lain! Betul khan?
You see guys? It's not good for a man to be alone (sendiri, eksklusif, menyendiri, tidak berteman)
But it's good to be SINGLE!

SINGLE artinya: tunggal, whole, utuh, complete, terpisah, unik (English Dictionary), whole, unique, undivided.

Tuhan tidak bilang : It's not good to be single, tapi yang Dia bilang : It's not good to be alone.

Adam= adalah pribadi yang Single, artinya complete, utuh, sempurna. Dikatakan "Allah melihat segala yang dijadikanNya itu sungguh amat baik". Ini berarti Adam adalalah pribadi yang utuh, single, complete,and nothing wrong with Adam as his person. Tidak pernah dikatakan bahwa Adam sibuk mencari pasangan untuk mengisi kekosongan jiwanya. Tidak !!

Yang tercatat adalah : Adam mengusahakan dan memelihara Taman Eden,sendirian 'bo ! Termasuk kerjaan yang maha berat, yaitu memberi nama segala mahkluk hidup yang ada di bumi. Begitu sibuknya dia, sampai Adam enggak sadar kalo dia perlu teman. Tuhanlah yang bilang, bahwa "It's not good for a man to be alone". Adam sibuk, concern dgn pekerjaannya sehingga dia tidak merasa membutuhkan teman. Inisiatif berpasangan, justru datangnya dari T U H A N.

Perhatiin deh, pada saat Adam setia menjalankan panggilannya, maka Tuhan kasih bonus yaitu Pasangan Hidup. Nah, temen2 dah pada setia belom nihh? Hehe... Ayo kita setia, maka yang terbaik pasti Tuhan sediakan buat kita.

Waktu Tuhan menciptakan Hawa, wanita diciptakan BUKAN untuk membuat Adam menjadi complete. Why? Krn Adam sudah complete sejak sebelum dia ketemu wanita. Tujuan penciptaan wanita, sebagai penolong bagi Adam. The Lord said,"I'm going to make him a helper".

Ilustrasi nya gini : Untuk mengangkat meja sendirian, bisa dilakukan.
Tetapi dengan adanya penolong, maka akan membuat segala sesuatu menjadi lebih mudah, right?
Sekalipun saat itu Adam masih sendirian (alone), tetapi dia tidak merasa kesepian. Temen2 perlu ingat bahwa alone, belum tentu kesepian /lonely.
Adam memang tidak kesepian krn ada Tuhan di situ, tetapi jelas bahwa Tuhan bilang "it's not good for a man to be alone".

'SINGLE'NESS
Guys, Kapan kita tahu bahwa kita siap untuk menerima pasangan? Yaitu pada saat kita merasa tidak membutuhkan pasangan, karena disitulah kita merasa Complete. Adam telah membuktikannya. Hawa datang bukan pada saat dia sedang sibuk sana-sini mencari pasangan. Tuhan memberikan pasangan, justru pada saat Adam ada dalam kondisi terbaik, saat sedang complete,utuh, single dan menikmati panggilannya .

Singleness, adalah suatu tahapan yang harus dicapai oleh setiap orang yang akan menikah.

Hanya orang yang SINGLE, utuh - complete - matang - unik - secure - aman, hanya Single person yang siap masuk ke dalam arena pernikahan. Sebab pernikahan seharusnya terjadi antara TWO SINGLE PERSONS, antara laki-laki yang utuh dan wanita yang utuh. Tetapi seringkali faktanya, pernikahan terjadi antara dua orang yang saling tidak utuh, yang saling mencari keutuhan dari diri pasangannya masing-masing.

Ilustrasinya gini : Ada dua gelas berisi air yang tidak penuh, diibaratkan sebagai seorang individu.
Pada masa pra nikah, seringkali seseorang berkata "ohh..., kekasih saya adalah orang yang bisa memenuhi hidup saya" atau "bersama dengan kekasih saya, hidup saya menjadi utuh / complete". Faktanya adalah: setelah yang gelas yang satu mengisi gelas yang lain, apa yang terjadi? Maka salah satu dari gelas itu akan menjadi kosong!

Temen-temen, pernikahan tidak akan menjadi baik kalau ternyata kita mendapatkan orang yang tidak single / tidak complete / tidak utuh. Perbuatan yang salah, jika kita mencari seseorang yang bisa mengisi kekosongan dalam hati kita. Bahkan, beberapa diantara kita mungkin udah mulai mencari-cari orang lain yang bisa mengisi kekosongan dirinya, sejak dari kecil...!! SMP mungkin?

Matius 22 :39 Dan hukum yang kedua, yang sama dengan itu, ialah : Kasihilah sesamamu manusia seperti dirimu sendiri.

Yesus berkata, supaya kita bisa mengasihi sesama kita, baik itu pasangan kita, isteri/suami kita, maka kita harus bisa mengasihi diri sendiri.
Tidak bisa mengasihi dirimu sendiri = tentu tidak bisa mengasihi sesamamu manusia. Perlu dicatat bahwa mengasihi diri sendiri: bukan berarti selfish, self center, atau egois, melainkan menjadi utuh, complete, dan Single!!

Lantas bagaimana caranya mengasihi dirimu sendiri:

1. Mengenal diri kita sendiri.
Do you know who you are ?
Do you know why you are in God?
Do you know why you are here?
Do you know your identity?
Yesus adalah pribadi yang mengetahui siapa diriNya, sehingga Dia bisa mengasihi orang lain. (Yoh 14:6, 10:9, 10:11, 6:35, 8:12, 11:25)

2. Menerima diri kita apa adanya, artinya kita memiliki gambar diri yang telah dipulihkan dalam Kristus.
Pernikahan yang tidak baik ialah dua individu yang tidak bisa mengasihi diri sendiri, tidak mengenal dirinya sendiri, tidak bisa menerima dirinya sendiri, tetapi berusaha untuk saling mengasihi.
Lihat contohnya di Sinetron.

Beberapa relationship pra nikah atau malah pernikahan, sebetulnya "mengosongkan"diri kita, atau "dries you up", atau membuat kondisi kita menjadi kering, yaitu pada saat pasangan kita berusaha memenuhi kekosongan dirinya.

Jika pasangan kita sedikit-sedikit telpon kita dan bilang, "Knapa sih elo gak telp gue?", atau sedikit-sedikit "Knapa sih elo ga perhatiin gue?", atau "Kenapa sih elo enggak seperti yang lain?"

Sesungguhnya, kalau kita Single (complete, utuh, whole), maka kita tidak segitu butuhnya diperhatiin, karena kita bisa mengasihi diri sendiri dan siap mengasihi orang lain. Yesus adalah pribadi yang tahu persis siapa dirinya, apa tujuan hidupnya, dan kenapa Dia ada di muka bumi ini.(Yohanes 8:14)

IT'S MORE IMPORTANT TO BE SINGLE
Ternyata jika ditelaah lebih jauh, lebih penting untuk menjadi Single lebih dahulu ketimbang menikah. Adalah lebih aman untuk tidak menikah lebih dahulu, daripada menikah tapi kita belum menjadi single. Hal yang paling berbahaya dalam pernikahan adalah orang yang tidak Single/utuh, menikah dengan orang yang tidak Single/utuh. Itulah penyebab perceraian dan memudarnya kebahagiaan dalam pernikahan.

Ilustrasi: Masih mending kalau gelas tadi berisi 50% : 50%. Yang lebih parah, jika yang satu dalam kondisi yang dibawah 50%. Jika individu yang satu tidak bisa memenuhi yang lain, maka pasangannya akan mencari orang lain, yang dianggap bisa memenuhi kekosongan dirinya dan terjadilah perselingkuhan yang berujung pada perzinahan.

Lihatlah pada realita yang ada, orang yang tidak utuh/complete/ single menikah dengan yang tidak utuh, maka tinggal menunggu waktu saja dan dalam hitungan jari, tahun2 pernikahan mereka akan segera berakhir.

It's more important to you to be SINGLE first, then get married.

Kalaupun sekarang kita belum get married, yang terpenting kita menjadi SINGLE, maka dengan demikian kita tetap bersukacita. Sebab, orang yang tidak SINGLE, tidak utuh, tidak dapat menguasai dirinya (Amsal 25:28). Bagaimana mungkin orang yang kosong / tidak utuh akan dapat mengendalikan dirinya? Dia hanya bisa mengendalikan sebagian dari dirinya, tidak sepenuhnya. Tentu saja, hanya orang yang Single, yang complete / penuh / utuh, akan dapat mengendalikan hidupnya.

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Orang yang tidak utuh/complete, tidak dapat memberikan apa-apa untuk pasangannya karena memang tujuan awal dia mencari pasangan adalah selfish, hanya untuk mengisi kekosongan dirinya sendiri. Pasangan seperti ini hanya akan banyak menuntut, banyak minta diperhatiin dsb. Dia akan mengganggu konsentrasi hidup kita, pekerjaan, karier, bisnis, dll. This person will dries you up.

IT'S A WRONG MYTH
Mitos yang keliru ialah : Menikah adalah kunci menuju kebahagiaan, seakan belum lengkap kalau belum menikah. Ini menyebabkan kebanyakan orang sejak muda berpikir untuk mencari seseorang, untuk mengisi kekosongan d i r i nya.

It's completely wrong, guys. Why ??
Karena kekosongan hidup kita hanya bisa diisi oleh Tuhan. Makanya Tuhan Yesus bilang, "Seek first the Kingdom of God ", Mat 6:33.
Tuhanlah yang seharusnya menjadi pusat, sumber dan inspirasi untuk mengisi kekosongan hati kita.

Kita semua tahu, bahwa kita tidak perlu menikah untuk menjadi complete. Pernikahan tidak selalu menambah urapan dalam diri kita, tidak selalu akan menjadikan kita sebagai berkat bagi orang lain. That's not of a marriage. Kepenuhan panggilan kita hanya bisa didapat di dalam Tuhan, yaitu pada saat kita tahu siapa diri kita, kita bisa menerima diri kita sendiri, kita tahu kenapa kita ada disini dan kita memahami apa tujuan hidup kita .

Kunci menerima kebahagiaan yang sebenarnya adalah: Apabila kita menjadi single / utuh / complete, mengenali siapa kita di dalam Tuhan dan mengetahui tujuan hidup kita, baik dalam keadaan menikah atau tidak menikah. Ada orang-orang yang masih sendirian, belum berpasangan / belum menikah, tetapi dia tidak pernah merasa kesepian karena dia Single, utuh/complete dalam panggilannya. Tidak dipungkiri, bisa saja sewaktu-waktu ada keinginan memiliki pasangan, tetapi keinginan itu tidak pernah membuat dia menjadi goyah dan tetap maksimal dalam panggilannya.

SEKALI LAGI : HANYA BISA DIISI OLEH YESUS
Banyak orang yang sendirian tapi dia belum utuh / kosong / sepi, hidupnya banyak diisi dengan usaha-usaha utk memenuhi kekosongan dirinya dan menjadi orang yang sibuk sana-sini mencari tulang rusuknya. Cobain sana, cobain sini, lirik sana-sini, jadian sana-sini, putus sana-sini, parah deh pokoknya. Jika dia menikah, bisa jadi dia malah akan merusak pasangannya jika pasangannya adalah orang yang Single.

Ingat ilustrasi omelet. Telur yang busuk akan merusak telur yang baik. Nahh,jika pasangannya tidak Single/utuh, wahh... akan lebih parah lagi. Mereka akan saling mengeringkan, saling menuntut, saling menyakiti dan tidak dewasa, dan akan berakibat pada ketidak-bahagiaan dan perceraian. Guys, sekali lagi pahamilah, bahwa rasa kesepian dan tidak utuh, TIDAK BISA DIISI OLEH PASANGAN KITA, melainkan hanya oleh Tuhan Yesus.
(maka layanilah Tuhan, cari dulu Kerajaan Allah, ikutlah kegiatan2 Gereja,berikan dirimu; perhatianmu, usaha kreatifmu dan waktumu... maka yang lain2 akan ditambahkan bagimu...)

Justru pernikahan yang sempurna, hanya bisa dilakukan oleh dua orang Single, yaitu mereka yang telah utuh dan complete. Mereka berdua tidak akan saling mengeringkan, tapi saling memberi pujian, saling mendukung, saling menunjang dan tidak saling menuntut. These two Single persons akan menghasilkan sesuatu yang baik, kekuatan yang baru, berkat bagi sekeliling, dll.

Tidak heran jika setelah pernikahan, maka baik sang pria maupun sang wanita, akan menjadi individu yang semakin berkualitas, yang mengalami kepenuhan panggilannya di dalam Kristus. Berbahagialah kita jika menikah dengan pribadi yang Single, pribadi yang utuh / complete, punya kedewasaan dan panggilan dalam Kristus.

REMEMBER:
Hubungan kita hanya sebaik dengan siapa saja yang terlibat dalam hubungan itu.
To be single should be the goal of every person.
Dan entah kita menikah atau tidak, sudah menikah atau belum...., STAY SINGLE !!!


p.s: i Found dis post from ma friend's wall, dis is Nice ^^

I MUST Do...(Juz Becoz of You)

I don't want to talk with you it doesn't mean that i don't want to talk with you or i don't care bout you, i juz can't pretend there's nothin happen, coz there's sumthin happen with ME *STILL dunno how bout you*.
i do it all this things juz becoz i really really care bout you and i don't want to hurt you, even though it's really hard and hurt me so much, i MUST do. 

The truth is i want to talk with you so badly, it's hard for me to not talkin to you but i MUST do, i juz don't want to hurt you wif my existence *coz u alredi noe the truth*, i juz want to see you happy even i'm unhappy here...

I'm doin all this thing juz becoz of you...

Perhaps...someday we'll meet randomly in better situation and good place :)

Say Hi...

It's been a year i don't write at this blog, oh..i miss this thing, miss writing again... ^^

but STILL...i don't know what i should to write, ooww okay...just pretend that i do the warming up before i write everything inside on my head.

A year has passed, a year has changed everything in my life, i learn a lots since a year, a year made me MUCH MUCH STRONGER, i just try to find my right direction, but when i near all those direction everything just fade away slowly by the time...

STILL THINKING...what happen exactly in MY LIFE???

StAg Reunion

Pictures tells Everythin'...lolz

The NEW Story

It’s a NEW YEAR

It’s a NEW NUMBER of 2009

It’s a NEW SOUL

It’s a NEW SPIRIT

It’s a NEW LIFE

It’s a NEW GOAL

It’s a NEW MEMORY

It’s a NEW and Re-NEW for EVERYTHIN in LIFE

It’s TIME for a NEW CHAPTER in Ma LIFE

And The Story for dis Chapter of 2009 is STARTIN...

STARTIN for a NEW STORY...

Fairytale...

Wat is FAIRYTALE...

Sumtimez i felt dat i LIVE in FAIRYTALE
Everythin seems really wonderful
Seems beautiful for me
Everythin's under ma control
Everythin's full of happiness
Maybe i'm lil' bit naive
Thought...dat Everythin will be okay 

Thought...dat Everythin's NOT OVER

Thought...dat Everythin will STAY at their place 

Thought...there's no ENDIN, but Happily Ever After

EVERYTHIN's Random inside Ma FAIRYTALE
EVERYTHIN's Beautiful
EVERYTHIN Sounds & Seems WONDERFUL

Maybe i should open ma eyes RITE NOW
Maybe ma mind's rite
I MUST wake up from dis FAIRYTALE
FAIRYTALE is NOT EXIST
Maybe...i should push maself really hard
and said to Maself dat "THERE's NO FAIRYTALE"

FAIRYTALE's a BULLSHIT
FAIRYTALE's NOT EXIST
FAIRYTALE's juz a DREAM inside REALITY

Fiuhh...Wat a FAIRYTALE
MAYBE...Rite Now i dun believe anymore dat FAIRYTALE's EXIST

FAIRYTALE inside REALITY...
Juz...FAIRYTALE...
ONLY FAIRYTALE from Many FAIRYTALEZ

FAIRYTALE inside Ma MIND but NOT Ma HEART...Anymore

FAIRYTALE is a FAIRYTALE...
Maybe...NO MORE FAIRYTALE...

Random...

Dunno wat to say...

Dunno wat to do...
STILL Blurin...
Juz wan to write sumthin...
Sumthin dat i can't TELL...


uhhmm...i juz...dunno
I'm Blank...
STILL waitin for next chapter...
STILL waitin for next story...
STILL waitin for next song...
STILL waitin for next poem...
STILL waitin for next inspiration...
STILL waitin for next surprise...
STILL waitin for next memory...


STILL Waitin...

BLURIN...

Inspired Speech

i wan 2share dis speech, i really inspired by dis speech, hope u'll be inspired 2, it really nice ^^

Standford University:

This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.

This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.

(note: I copy paste from dis website: http://news-service.stanford.edu/news/2005/june15/jobs-061505.html)


P.S: No matter wat happen 2us, juz BELIEVE dat EVERYTHIN HAPPENS for a REASON.
No matter wat we do, do it wif PASSION, DEDICATION, RESPECT, INTEGRITY & D most important thing...do it wif our HEART.

i juz realize dat we've met & noe each other juz becoz a/many REASON & i really BELIEVE all dat "REASON" is 2help us grow, make us BETTER & STRONGER than before.
xoo...ma Angelz c'mon...we've got to find what what we love in life & let our HEART find it. =)

To ALL Ma Angelz I Wan 2Say:
THANX...coz ya'll become ma "REASON" to live,
THANX 4 UR "EXISTENCE" in ma life, I LEARN Lotzzzz from EACH of U,
Last but not least THANX...for OLWEIZ INSPIRED me, U're D BEZT ^^

"I LOVE LIFE, LIFE LOVE ME, I LOVE MASELF, I LOVE U ma ANGELZ & Remember...OLWEIZ BELIEVE & FOLLOW OUR HEART ^^"

wif LOVE
Ma 4R Quote: "REJOICE our life, RESPONSIBLE wif everythin we've said & done, RESPECT others & REGRET nothin." =)

WHEREVER U Are & WHATEVER U Do...I Hope Ur Life's full of LOVE, HAPPINESS, BLESSING & NO REGRET.
GBU ^^

If you TELL me, I will LISTEN.
If you SHOW me, I will SEE.
If you let me EXPERIENCE, I will LEARN.
~ Lao Tzu ~

Drunken Chicken Grilled

OMG...hari ini dah mulai kul lagi :(
kuliah siang itu bener2 bwat aku ngantuk & males puoolll, btw...bwat nambah semangat akir-e aku ma adekku eksperimen masakan dan setelah binung2 cari nama akire muncul nama "Drunken Chicken Grilled" =D
Masakan-e ini bener2 memabukkan, setelah makan bener2 isa "nge-fly" dan ngantuk, bener2 ayam memabukkan wkakaka

contain wif: cinnamon, clove, caraway ^_^

Weekend at Home

Today...weekend at Home, mo bwat kolo-ku *feel really bored* sigh...
binungggg...tiba2 isa semangat bwat, terus nti tiba2 malezzz *arghhhhh*
sekarang ini bener-e mo bwat kolo-ku, tapi gak tau kenapa tiba2 pengen wae nulis blog, wis kebosanan mendalam ikiiii
btw...aku lagi 'home alone' pula, pa-ma ku keluar kota, adekku ya lagi pegi, mo bwat kolo-ku ide mo nulis apa ya gak muncul2...
wisss aku tak nunggu ilham wae, sapa tau tiba2 muncul

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Hi Peeps...

weww...dahh lama nehh gak nulis blog, mayan kangen juga...

btw...satu tahun belakangan ini banyak kejadian yg buat aku merasa aku tuh diberkati banget & lotz of coincident in ma life ^_^, hal-hal yang gak pernah aku harap dan dapetin ternyata bisa aku dapetin, banyak hal yang tak terduga yg muncul dihadapanku *really happy bot dat* , i feel blessed ^_^.

Banyak kejadian yg mayan sulit yg aku lewati, but fortunately...i can passed all dat situation

akhir-akhir ini aku merasa happy, depressed and enthusiasm at d same time, gara-gara kolokium-ku.

liburan ini mo bwat kolo-ku tapiiiii...males-ku kadang kumatt *arghhhhh...pusink aku*, terus...kadang binung harus mulai darimana bwat-e *biasaaa..aku ini tipikal orang yg sulit memulai sesuatu, lebih gampang klo disuruh untuk mengakhiri *

yahhh....sementara ini aku tak menikmati kebingungan + stress menghadapi kolo-ku hehehe *arghhhh...pusinkkk*

akirnyaaaaa....mayan lega juga mari nulis blog *hobi nulis-ku tersalurkan*